episode 11: system pivot ritual – unfollow with love

If you’ve ever sensed something was off in spiritual spaces—but couldn’t quite name it—this episode is for you. I share what made me quietly step away from a version of spirituality that started to feel more performative, judgmental, and patriarchal than freeing. It’s not a takedown. It’s a pivot. I took what helped, left the rest, and went deeper in my own work.

Here’s what I cover:

  1. 9 observations that made me step away: cruelty and judgment, weaponized empathy, specialness, emotional volatility, guru worship, lack of humor, confusing anxiety for intuition, money woes, spiritual consumerism, cultural appropriation, hyper-individualism, and false community.

  2. How these patterns show up not just in new age spaces—but in other systems/cultures too (corporate, religious, medical, therapeutic, etc)

  3. What I took from the new age community - teachings, concepts, and tools.

  4. What I do now - spiritual practice wise

  5. The ritual: A System Pivot Ritual – Unfollow With Love


my own oracle deck

I wrote down words or ideas on little cards. And I built it over time.


a little pro tip!

Listen to episode 2 for a discussion on being sovereign in another type of system - dating.

Build on the Ritual of Not Wanting The Tea from episode 2 with this ritual!


a system pivot ritual – unfollow with love

  1. Identify the system you're in

  2. What do you like? Or what can you take away?

  3. What can you leave behind?

  4. What can you master from the system you’re in? Or what would you like to master?


until next time,

may you allow your beautiful dignity to expand beyond the confines of any system

Dilshad


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